Unlocking Your True Potential: Building Capacity and Taking Action
Have you ever found yourself in a frustrating cycle of knowing what you should do but struggling to take action? It could be due to not having the capability OR not having the capacity - they’re very different things. In this blog, we share why we often face this internal resistance and, more importantly, how to break free from it.
Understanding the Battle: Capacity vs. Capability
What is the fundamental difference between "capacity" and "capability"? Capacity refers to your ability to handle the load or stress in your life (time, emotional, mental, physical capacity), while capability is about having the necessary knowledge and skills to perform a task. It's crucial to recognise this difference because, more often than not, our struggles are related to capacity issues.
For example, you might KNOW how to do the dishes or wash your clothes, but they end up piling up. Maybe you are emotionally, mentally and physically fine, but lacking time capacity to actually do it. Maybe you have all the time in the world, but you’re lacking the mental capacity. Maybe you are sick or injured, and lacking the physical capacity. Our focus is primarily on emotional and mental capacity from a nervous system regulation perspective. If you can increase your capacity, you’re increasing your window of tolerance for stress, which means you can withstand more before you flip into overwhelm and enter a freeze state.
Here are some practical steps to help you increase your capacity to avoid that freeze response!
- Mindfulness: Begin by practising mindfulness. This involves being present in the moment, paying attention to your thoughts and emotions without judgement. By doing this, you can identify and manage negative thought patterns and reduce self-criticism.
- Stress Management Tools: Stress is a major roadblock to taking action. The podcast suggests various tools like deep breathing, journaling, aromatherapy, and even sensory regulation (think weighted blankets or yoga) to help you manage and reduce stress in your life.
- Healthy Social Support: Don't underestimate the power of connecting with others. Building a network of social support, friends, or mentors can help you co-regulate your nervous system, increasing your capacity to handle challenges.
- Time Management: Effective time management can significantly boost your capacity. Develop a schedule that provides certainty and structure in your day. Prioritise your tasks and ensure you allocate time for what's important to you. A bonus point is - do the things that most overwhelm you first thing in the morning when your executive function tank is closest to full.
- Resolving Unresolved Trauma: Unresolved trauma can be a major drain on your capacity - the body sustains a chronic stress response of fight or flight, so even small triggers (such as rejection, fear of failing, letting people down etc) can push us over into a freeze response. It's essential to address the root causes of trauma through therapy or healing modalities. This process is pivotal in increasing your emotional and mental strength, and THIS is our bread and butter. If you need support, hit us up - we’ve got you.
Motivation and Rewards: Getting Yourself Going
Another common hurdle to taking action is a lack of motivation. To overcome this, here are some strategies to implement:
- Discover Personal Motivators: Take time to discover what truly motivates you. What gives you that dopamine rush? Is it social connection, reaching a destination, creating time pressure or simply completing a task? Understanding your motivators is key to overcoming inaction. I’ve even been known to invite family over for dinner when I’ve been unmotivated and procrastinating cleaning my house - that sure as heck gets me motivated!
- Setting Rewards: Consider setting up a rewards system for yourself. You can use bottles of champagne with goals written on them or any ideas you can come up where you can create rewards that inspire you to take action. Celebrate small wins, and watch your motivation soar.
The Power of Personal Growth
Personal growth is the key to a fulfilling and meaningful life. By addressing your capacity and building emotional and mental strength, you can transform your life. Resolving trauma, managing stress, and finding motivation are all critical steps on this journey.
So, if you've ever felt stuck, unable to take action on your goals, remember that it's not always just about learning more; it's about increasing your capacity to be able to do something with what you already know.
At Re-MIND Institute, we understand that unlocking your true potential requires a holistic approach. If you're ready to start your journey to unlocking your true potential, we invite you to reach out to us today. We're here to support you every step of the way.